A little dose of reality.

Some teens and young adults have lost touch with reality and don't understand the consequences of their behavior. A friend of mine had her birthday party at a club in Detroit, a fight broke out between a couple of guys and they left and came back with a gun.  As a young woman, a mother, and someone's daughter stepped outside to leave was shot and killed.  A young woman was killed over nothing, and a little girl lost her mother. What a shame. I bet they drove away feeling justified. Hopefully, they will spend the rest of their lives in prison, where they belong.  People like this should remain locked up, like the animals they are. The scary part was I was supposed to go. Thank God, I wasn't feeling well and decided to sit this one out.  I was feeling guilty for not going and celebrating with my best friend, but God must have been watching over me that day.

Is there any hope anymore?

The economy sucks and there are no jobs out there.  At least that pay more than $10.00 an hour. I went from a comfortable lifestyle and what I thought was a secure job to having to start over and to top it off, the jobs out there aren't looking too good.  My future isn't looking so good anymore.  Will the economy ever improve so people can get back on their feet?  I'm beginning to wonder, if this is what the future holds for the United States.  It seems like you work so hard your whole life to be successful and everything just seems to spin out of control and there is nothing you can do about it.  You educate yourself and then get even more education and it just doesn't seem to matter anymore. Even if your married, it's a very scary situation.  First, there's going from two incomes to one income and if that's not hard enough to deal with there is the scary fact that it's not your grandparents 'til death do us part marriage anymore.  You can't be naïve and think there isn't the posibility of divorce in your future. You can love and respect someone all you want but, they have to give it back for it to work. Too many people don't respect the sanctity of marriage anymore. You always have that worry in the back of your mind, what is going to happen to me and my children? Can I depend on them to not let me fall?  It's a very scary reality. The homeless population is always rising, especially now. People who had good jobs and nice homes are now living out of their cars. If you don't find a job and your unemployment runs out, and you lose your home then where are you and your children going to go? Someone should strip George Bush of all his fine luxuries and money, put him in an apartment on the lower east side of town and tell him to go find a job.

Are things heating up yet?

Is your sex life getting stale?  Try making love in a new and exciting place.  Just make sure you aren't going to get caught with your pants down or on camera.  Don't limit your lovemaking to the bedroom.  How about....

• A nice hot shower together. There are aids online or in the adult stores to make  love making easier and safer in the shower.
• Initiating another room in the house.
• Set up a secret meeting place to cook up some hot & steamy sex in a public place.
• A hotel room
• Look up some new positions online. Karma Sutra is a good place to start. They give you details on the how to perform the position. Dont limit yourselves to the same positions all the time.  Even if you don't master the position, it will be fun trying.
• Watch a good porn flick.  By the end of the movie, you will be making love. Choose one together, so you both will be comfortable with the content.
• Try some role playing.
• Surprise him by playing the damsel in distress & then seduce him.

Enjoy your lovemaking adventures, my friends.

Even Santa Clause & His Elves Are Feeling The Economy

Santa Clause & his elves in North Pole, Alaska are being his hard by the economy too.  Santa & his elves have been responding to childrens letters to Santa Clause since 1954 in North Pole, Alaska.  The USPS is dropping the program.   In a town where the light poles are curved like candy canes and there are street names like Kris Kringle Drive they are not ready to give up on the tradition. Gabby Gaborik, the cheif elf is working with USPS to come up with an alternative agreement. They are working on getting the address 101 Santa Clause Lane so children will have somewhere to send their letters.  The USPS has been coding the mail to protect the identity of children since 2006.  Last year, there were approximately 800,000 items processed last year and the USPS says North Pole, Alaska are not equiped with the right equipement to process mail of that kind of volume. Democratic Sen. Mark Begich and Republican Rep. Don Young  have sent letters to the post master general expressing their concerns about the program being dropped. Now, those letters that are intercepted by the postal service will be shredded. How sad, the USPS will be crushing the dreams of thousands of children across the United States.

Enjoy one another

As you may know, I have dedicated the month of November to Bringing The Love Back in your marriage or relationship. With the busy holiday season coming, we spend a lot of time focusing on dinner planning and shopping and forget to take care of ourselves. I know you may already know about all the topics I am discussing for the month of November, or maybe not. However, sometimes we forget to take care of the person we love and forget that even though we are married we still have to work on our relationship. Please feel free to leave any comments or suggestions; I would love to hear from you.

Enjoy One Another

One of the common mistakes couples make in marriage is they forget to have fun together. Having fun together is essential to having a happy marriage. Goof around together; don't be so serious all the time. Be frisky & flirt with one another. Couples are so caught so caught up in daily life they forget to make time alone for one another. Make time for one another at least once a month. Go shopping; go out to dinner or a movie without the children. Look at your budget and see which weekend would be the best weekend to have a date night find a babysitter and spend time alone with your loved one. If you go out to a reasonable restaurant, a dinner for two can be inexpensive. There are several restaurants you two can go out to dinner to and have a couple of drinks and still keep the bill under $40.00. If that is not in your budget, send the kids to a relative’s house for a couple of hours or the night. Have dinner at home and maybe watch a movie together. It is not about how much you spend. It is about staying in touch with each other on a personal level and getting to know each other all over again.

A New Adventure....

Do you want to try something new and exciting? Fulfill your partner's fantasy and give your partner an equal opportunity to satisfy your sultry fantasy. Seriously, think about what is your wildest fantasy you would like to have fulfilled and your mate can do the same. Then you can write a letter or send an email to one another describing in detail what your fantasy is. Make it secretive, plan everything through emails and letters. Don't discuss your fantasy with one another.  You can even meet each other in seperate cars, like you are complete strangers. Don’t be conservative, this is your lifetime partner. If you can’t share your dreams and fantasies with your significant other, then who can you share them with. By this point, you have probably shared illnesses, childbirth and many other personal circumstances. Why not share your fantasies? Many couples are uncomfortable with opening up in the bedroom because they are afraid of how their partner will react to them. In most circumstances, they will be pleased to know what you like and how to please you without playing a guessing game. Boost your intimate moments and make them more pleasurable by letting them know what you like. Couples who are more comfortable with open communication are more satisfied with their sex life. Go ahead, book that room at the hotel down the street or send the kids to a family members’ house for the night and let your imagination run wild.

Its time to stir up the senses!

When being intimate with your partner a good a way to turn up the heat is to remember all the senses. Plan an afternoon trip to you local adult toy store or shop online together. Maximize the fun by going together. If you both go together then you both will be able to give some input on fulfilling your fantasies and choosing items both of you will be comfortable using. When planning your next encounter, think about how many of your partner's senses you can stimulate.

Taste: Champagne, chocolates, edible body paints & oils, sensual fruits that will be fun feeding each other, whip cream and the list goes on. Be creative!

Touch: When touching each other remember soft feather touches. The sensation of feeling isn’t just about touching one another. The sensation of touch is also the surfaces, such as sheets, negligees’, fuzzy rugs, soft surfaces, feathers, etc. One thing to keep in mind is; how does it feel when you touch it?

Sight: Visual stimulation is very important. Most men are visually stimulated when it comes to love making. Light some candles to provide a little soft lighting and give the room a sensual ambiance, negligees’ and a pair of stilettos, and spread some sensual toys on the bed. Have fun!!!

Smell: Scented candles or incense, where perfume, a freshly showered body is also very sensual. Scented massage oils are also very helpful in stirring up more than one of the bodies senses.

Hearing: Talk sexy to your partner. Tell them how their touch makes you feel or what you would like them to do. Being intimate is very personal. So, let’s get personal. Don’t be shy.

And don’t forget….

The Mind: The mind can be a wonderful sensual tool and is where it all begins. Send them some sexy pics inviting them to play, leave a note somewhere telling them where to meet you, or some hot text messages to get the imagination going.

Just remember to enjoy the time you spend with your partner and being creative will keep their interest and their love going for years to come.