If you really love someone, then be true to them. When you really love someone and care for them you don't do things that will hurt them. Be honest with the one you love. Don't think that just because they don't know, it won't hurt them. The truth always comes out in the end. I think people have a fear of committment. What is so scary about being committed to someone? If your sharing yourself with someone else, your not giving yourself the opportunity to completely love someone. You will never experience real love when your holding back a piece of yourself. It's not fair to you or your partner. Your spouse or your partner will be there for you when no one else will. Will the one night stand take care of you when your sick? Will the one night stand be there for you when your down? Can you depend on the one night stand or fling to help you out when you need it? No, they won't! No little one night stand or fling is worth losing the person you love. If you found that one person you love, why would you risk losing them just to have a fling. I don't get it. You can't build a future with someone while your still playing in the field. Be smart, appreciate what you have. Be true to your partner and don't just say you are when your really not. You expect them to be true to you, so be true to them. I bet you would be really shocked and hurt if they weren't. So, why the double standard? Stop being selfish and show them the same love and respect you expect from them. Sure it may be fun while your doing it, but is it still going to be fun when you have broken your partner our spouse's heart? Is it still going to be fun when you have lost the one you love? You can't replace them as easy as you think. Is it still going to be worth it when you know your the reason for all their pain? Are you going to bring the love back or throw it away?