There is one thing that really bothers me, it's when someone knows they have done something wrong, but will tell every lie possible to cover up what they have done. If you know, you have done something then, admit what you did, apologize and quietly back away without trying to take revenge on the other person you are trying to keep the truth from. If you know you have done wrong then why try to hide it? When you reach adulthood, you should be able to take responsibility for what you have done. All the lies you tell to cover up your misgivings only makes you look like a fool. It is like when a little kid is caught with their hand in the cookie jar, they make up lies or excuses for what they have done. Such as, an imaginary friend ate all the cookies. Did the imaginary friend really eat all the cookies or did you eat all the cookies? Do the lies and excuses really change what you have done? No, they don't. At some point in your life, you have to be adult enough to realize, lies do not change your actions. The actions still occurred even though you told lies to cover them. The lies don't make your actions go away. Don't forget, someone always knows the truth, therefore even though you told a lie to cover what you did. There will always be someone who knows what you did. One thing I was taught growing up is to be accountable for your own behavior and own up to your actions. You always have a choice to make whether or you realize it or not. You have the choice to do it or to not do it. That is something I try to pass along to my children. Apparently, not everyone was taught the same or we would not have the problems we have in society today or the prison system. Then there are the ones who repeatedly do the same things over and over again even though they know what they are doing is wrong but continue to do the same things regardless of the harm it may have on another person's life, then make up lies to cover their own actions. Yes, I am talking about adults here, it almost sounds like I am talking about children who do not know the difference between right and wrong.
What really kills me is when someone does something that does have a direct effect on you but claims what they do is none of your business. For example, when someone persistently has affairs that does have a direct effect on their partner. First, when you have broken your marriage vows that has a direct effect on your partner. Your vows are between you and your partner, therefore it is their business. When you are having repeated affairs, you are putting your partner's health at risk. They can be passed STD's, serious life threatening illnesses like AIDS or permanent STD's that will stay with them the rest of their life. I would say that is your partner's business. Their personal health is their business and no one else has the right to violate that right or put their health at risk to have a little fun.
A married couples personal finances is both partners business. One partner does not have the right to take money from their spouse to pay something their spouse does not feel their money should go to. Especially, when the expense is not related to running their household.
Another example, when one partner becomes physically abusive towards another that is a direct violation of their rights. No one person should ever be subjected to bodily harm from his or her spouse. These are all very serious violations of another person's rights and yes, it makes everyone of them their business. If you are not going to make a commitment then don’t make promises you have no intention on keeping and DON’T GET MARRIED!