Little did I know my son was a victim of some bullies in his school. I just found this out yesterday, as I hear screaming in my front yard and my son comes running through the door. Well, I do know now and there is going to be a lot of people who is going to wish I didn't, because I am not the type of parent who is going to sit around and do nothing. This has been going on since last year and he never told me. Apparently, he says he told the principal last year in elementary school and they never did anything. He is in middle school now and it is still going on. This time he told me because these kids took it a little too far. They were calling him names on the bus and throwing pencils and objects at him. Then when they got off the bus, one of them followed my son right up to the door throwing snow balls at him and threatened to beat him up. The crazy thing about it is, the bus driver didn't do anything about it. This is the same irresponsible driver who drove right past the bus stop at the beginning of the year, leaving the kids standing there. So, I called the school principal yesterday as soon as he told me and gave her the names of the boy and two girls and told her about the bus driver. She gave me the name and number of the bus driver's supervisor and I called reported her. Heads are going to roll Monday morning, because I am taking him to the school and I am going to make sure something is done about it this time. I am laid off from work right now and I have nothing better to do with my time. I will go down to that school and sit in the office until something is done about it, because I will not allow this to continue on for one more day. My next step is that if this happens again when he gets off the bus is to call the police and have charges filed against the boy and the two girls. I don't care of they are only 11, they are old enough to be held accountable for their behavior and I will make sure it happens. I am his mother and if I don't look out for my son's well being then who will? Nobody but me and my husband. We already know the bus driver isn't doing her job. So, she won't. If I have to go to the news over this, I will. I will make sure the driver and the students are made an example of for their poor choices. I don't question why the man who went on to a school bus to talk to the boys who were harassing his daughter did it. If the schools aren't doing anything what is a parent to do? I definitely wanted to confront these kids yesterday as they were running across the street when they saw me. But, I told myself, I will give the school an opportunity to take care of it.
There are a lot of problems on the corner with kids fighting as they get off the bus, whether it be with the middle school kids or the high school kids. It is time for this bullshit to stop. I have broke up too many fights on the corner. I am just going to start calling the police on these kids. One of the fights I broke up three boys had a boy on the ground in the street and were kicking him and punching him. The funny thing is, I don't live in a bad neighborhood. The biggest problem is kids fighting and stealing. I don't have a problem yelling at kids fighting in the street. I'm not going to stand by and watch some innocent kid get bullied or beat up on. Especially, when it comes to my own son. I'm am tired of this kind of stuff going on. So, I guess it is time to take further steps in preventing it going on in my own neighborhood.
I feel so bad for your child! I hate bullies and I just dont understand why there is such anger in children these days. You are right about schools not doing anything and then some kid snaps and goes on a shooting rampage. Some day they will wise up and stand up for kids!
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No, they don't. Because if they did, it still wouldn't be going on this year. Thank you for the follow :)
ReplyDeleteYou already know how I feel about it. If the schools don't do anything then it's time to deal with it with your own brand of justice.
ReplyDeleteNew Follower here. Had to comment when I saw your post about bullying. I'm the mother of a 14 year old girl and I'll be the first to admit that it's HARD to raise children these days. I refer to myself as an in-your-face mom. I am content to stay on the sidelines, unless my daughter is treated unfairly. Then, like you, I step in. ALWAYS.
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You go for it! Hold the D-Bags accountable and, by all means, call the cops.
ReplyDeleteAs you've probably noticed in my writings, I had some dealings with bullies as a child. My "Once Upon a Time" writings are all true stories. Since they are true, I've changed the names of everyone so I don't have any possible hurt feelings. But, I have NOT changed the names of the bullies.
Luckily, my son, a college freshman now, didn't experience any of the trauma I did when I was a kid (not that I know of, anyway). Same for daughter, a high school junior. There is teenage girl drama, but nothing like the reign of terror that was my adolescence.
I plan to. They school system is supposed to have a zero tolerance for bullying. Apparently, the school bus driver feels differently. Not only is she to drive the bus, she is to keep the children orderly and report any cases of bullying to the office. I plan on pushing the issue for the sake of my own and and any other kids they may be bullying.
ReplyDeleteYou mentioned that your son is now in middle school. Is he in a different school than last year? If so, the administrators at the current school may not have had any knowledge of the bullying especially if it is only happening on the bus (and it sounds like the bus driver is clueless to her responsiblilies). If your phone call was the first the principal heard of this problem I suggest you give her an opportunity to fix it. As an educator (before I became a SAHM) I have to say that most (not all but most) teachers and administrators are not going to put up with bullying in their schools. These people go into education to help kids. Hopefully, the ones at your son's school are there for the right reason. I hope Monday brings a much better situation for your son!
ReplyDeleteI plan on giving them a chance of taking care of it. I just want to take him and I want to make sure the driver is diciplined and the kids are punished this time around. Yes, it was a different school, but the same district with the same rules and nothing was done last year. I am his mother and it is my job to make sure his rights are protected and I intend on doing just that. I called the current principal. What would calling the first principal do? Nothing personal, if it was your child I'm sure you wouldn't have such a cavalier attitude about it. My point was if the principal did his job and took care of the situation last year, he probably wouldn't still be going through this. Bullying has become such a big problem, because teachers and administrators don't always take the problem seriously until something serious happens. I thought contacting the school was the proper steps. Which is what I'm doing.
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry if I offended you but I think you missunderstood my comment. I said that if you contacted the current principal it may have been the first she had heard of the problem (not that you should have called the principal from the last school). I understand that you are angry (as you should be)that this is happening to your son. Bullying is a serious problem and should be treated as such. If it was my child in the same situation I would be doing the same thing you are by contacting the school. Nobody hurts my kids and gets away with it. I didn't mean to imply that you were handling the situation too aggressively. As a teacher I saw a lot of good parents who were just trying to protect their children attack the educators and act like they are the enemy when they truely care about the wellbeing of their students. As a result the educators were less likely to work with the parents to find a resolution that all parties were happy with. Again I apoligize if my comment was misconstrued. I hope things get resolved and your son can have a better time the rest of the year.
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