When is it time to give up?

A friend of mine is going thru a very difficult time with her ex. She really loves this person, but he keeps lying to her and messing around. They go back and forth to one another.  She just can't seem to stay away from him and just when she thinks he has changed and he won't do it anymore, there he goes again.  I feel terrible for her because she really loves him, but he always breaks her heart.  It is tearing her up inside. What is wrong with some men that they can't just love one person and be with just one person?  Don't they care about how much they are hurting the person they say they love?  How can one person be so ruthless and heartless to not even care about how much they are hurting that person who would do anything to just to have this person forever and have them be committed to them and only them. He doesn't even realize he is torturing and breaking her heart. When you make a promise to someone you should keep it.  Men talk about women not knowing what they want. Some men are worse then women. They can't even decide which woman they want. And if we did what they did, we would be a lying cheating bitch. At least when we make a promise, we keep it. They can't say the same. Tell me how can you hurt someone so badly, you claim to love?  Is the thrill of cheating really worth fucking up your life and someone else's life?  They need to remember it is someone else's life they are fucking up & have no right to do it.

Sex, lies & marriage...

As I go online to my myspace, I can't help but wander what is wrong with people today. All their updates are posted on all of their friends pages, about 80% are sexual in content.  The sad part about it are most of these people are married or in relationships. People have become reckless.  It's not just on myspace, that includes anywhere else they are seeking a fling. Infidelity is even in the news almost weekly. Its like sex and marriage are two seperate entities. What did they get married for? You can have sex with you spouse. Why do they need to go out and seek meaningless sex with someone they don't know. In actuality, it's pathetic. It only shows they have no morals or self control.  They are probably the ones saying they are doing it because their sex life at home has gotten boring.  Did they ever stop to think their sex life has gotten boring because they are no longer putting effort into their sex life.  It's a little hard to get into it if the other person is laying there like a bump on a log. They are the only ones to blame if they marriages fail. Maybe if they put as much effort into their marriage as they do into having an affair, their marriages wouldn't fail. You can't be boring in the bedroom and expect it to be exciting. When your married, you need to remember your married and the other person involved has trusted you with their heart. How would it feel if they did the same to you? You would be running around telling everyone what they did to you and acting as though you are innocent when you know your not. If you want to IM, text or email someone why don't you try your spouse? It might actually improve your marriage.  Another excuse is, I just don't love them the same anymore. Well damn, if you are focusing your attention on someone else, your not going to love them the same anymore. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure that one out. You are taking away from the feelings that were meant for your spouse. It is no longer personal anymore.  Seriously, some of these people are just too damn old to be doing this shit anymore.  By the time you get in your mid-thirties you should be settled down and taking care of business not playing around like you are a teenager.  News Flash, your not a teenager anymore and you look ridiculous trying to pretend like your single and in your early to mid-twenties. By the time you have reached your mid-thirties, you only have a few good years left.  So, why don't you give up the childish games and get real. Infidelity is a desperate attempt to build self-esteem. Seriously, open your eyes and see the skank or skanks your having an affair with for what they really are.... and that builds your self-esteem. LMAO. No one likes a phony or a liar. You don't like to be lied to, so why are you lying to someone else? In the end, you have no real potential. If you wouldn't want to be married to someone that is unfaithful and lies to you, then why do expect someone to want you? You married them because you loved them. Why don't love them enough to be faithful? If marriage wasn't serious, you wouldn't need a lawyer to get a divorce. When did loyalty and honesty become such an undesirable trait that so few wish to possess them.

'Tis the season....

I don't know about anyone else, but I'm having a really difficult time getting into the Christmas Spirit this year.  The economy sucks, everything just seems more difficult this year, and it's getting harder to see the light at the end of the tunnel.  They weren't lying when they say "when it rains, it pours." I can't help but be more excited for the new year to begin and 2009 to just be over. Maybe the year 2010 will be better, we can only hope.  I remember in the early 80's, things were a little tough for a few years.  I think the year 2009 has topped that and this is one of the worst recessions the United States has seen in years. We can only hope that things will turn around in the new year.  Nothing in life is what I knew it to be.  Sometimes, I wonder is this what is left of everything I worked so hard to build and if I will ever get my old lifestyle back.

Closing Schools and Laying off Teachers

It seems like everytime I turn on the news there is something on the news about more school closings.  I understand the economy is bad.  But, seriously can we afford to cut back on educating our children?  Other countries school systems are more advanced than the educational system in the United States and they are closing schools and laying off teachers left and right.  Are we really returning to the dark ages?  During the Dark Ages there were no schools.  The Dark Ages began with the Fall of the Roman Empire.  During the Roman Empire there were schools and libraries.  The Barbarians destroyed and burned down all the schools and libraries.  The only difference is it is our own government shutting down libraries and schools.  In my daughters high school, they are laying off the librarian and closing the library.  They claim they the school doesn't need a library.  Why don't they start with cutting the salary and some of the fringe benefits the government officials take.  I think that would be a better place to start. Oh excuse me, we wouldn't want them to feel the hit of the economy. It is much better to over crowd the schools and cut back on educating our youth.

A little dose of reality.

Some teens and young adults have lost touch with reality and don't understand the consequences of their behavior. A friend of mine had her birthday party at a club in Detroit, a fight broke out between a couple of guys and they left and came back with a gun.  As a young woman, a mother, and someone's daughter stepped outside to leave was shot and killed.  A young woman was killed over nothing, and a little girl lost her mother. What a shame. I bet they drove away feeling justified. Hopefully, they will spend the rest of their lives in prison, where they belong.  People like this should remain locked up, like the animals they are. The scary part was I was supposed to go. Thank God, I wasn't feeling well and decided to sit this one out.  I was feeling guilty for not going and celebrating with my best friend, but God must have been watching over me that day.

Is there any hope anymore?

The economy sucks and there are no jobs out there.  At least that pay more than $10.00 an hour. I went from a comfortable lifestyle and what I thought was a secure job to having to start over and to top it off, the jobs out there aren't looking too good.  My future isn't looking so good anymore.  Will the economy ever improve so people can get back on their feet?  I'm beginning to wonder, if this is what the future holds for the United States.  It seems like you work so hard your whole life to be successful and everything just seems to spin out of control and there is nothing you can do about it.  You educate yourself and then get even more education and it just doesn't seem to matter anymore. Even if your married, it's a very scary situation.  First, there's going from two incomes to one income and if that's not hard enough to deal with there is the scary fact that it's not your grandparents 'til death do us part marriage anymore.  You can't be naïve and think there isn't the posibility of divorce in your future. You can love and respect someone all you want but, they have to give it back for it to work. Too many people don't respect the sanctity of marriage anymore. You always have that worry in the back of your mind, what is going to happen to me and my children? Can I depend on them to not let me fall?  It's a very scary reality. The homeless population is always rising, especially now. People who had good jobs and nice homes are now living out of their cars. If you don't find a job and your unemployment runs out, and you lose your home then where are you and your children going to go? Someone should strip George Bush of all his fine luxuries and money, put him in an apartment on the lower east side of town and tell him to go find a job.

Are things heating up yet?

Is your sex life getting stale?  Try making love in a new and exciting place.  Just make sure you aren't going to get caught with your pants down or on camera.  Don't limit your lovemaking to the bedroom.  How about....

• A nice hot shower together. There are aids online or in the adult stores to make  love making easier and safer in the shower.
• Initiating another room in the house.
• Set up a secret meeting place to cook up some hot & steamy sex in a public place.
• A hotel room
• Look up some new positions online. Karma Sutra is a good place to start. They give you details on the how to perform the position. Dont limit yourselves to the same positions all the time.  Even if you don't master the position, it will be fun trying.
• Watch a good porn flick.  By the end of the movie, you will be making love. Choose one together, so you both will be comfortable with the content.
• Try some role playing.
• Surprise him by playing the damsel in distress & then seduce him.

Enjoy your lovemaking adventures, my friends.