Wishing Everyone A Safe & Happy New Year

I hope everyone enjoyed their Christmas. 2009 is coming to an end and we will be ringing in the new year. 2009 has been a difficult year, I think a lot of people are hoping the year 2010 will bring better and happier times, I know I am. I just wanted to wish everyone a safe and happy New Year.

Sports Parents Kill Me

Today was my son's first wrestling tournament of the season, as usual you see the crazy sports parents who are trying to relive their childhood through their child. They stress themselves out and their children out way too much over a children's wrestling tournament. As I was standing outside, a parent walks out and says "this is going to kill me" referring to his child.  Apparently, his child wasn't doing as well as he thought he should.  Last year, there were too many dads out in the hallway with their children scolding them for not winning.  I understand you want your child to win, but come on; what kind of message are you sending to your child that doing his best isn't good enough?  It's not just in wrestling, my daughter was cheerleading in the fall and at one of the games, two of the parents almost got into a fight after one of the games. One of the parents was a cheerleader's mom and the other was a father of a football player, the mother didn't think he was showing the spirit and didn't like some of the comments he was saying to another parent.

On the other hand you have the parents who can not seem to let go of their children and let them play.  You have these boys who cry after they lose their bout because their parents have babied them way too much.  One parent had to be asked to get off the mat by the coach because he went out on to the mat to hug his child because he had started crying during a bout.  Come on parents, let your children grow up.  If you have smothered and babied your child so much that they can't make it through a wrestling bout, there's a problem.  Let go a little bit and let your child stand on their own two feet.  They can't even enjoy the sport they are playing because their parents have their nose stuck their ass.

Don't get me wrong, I'm down their screaming and yelling chearing my son on. I enjoy every minute of it. But, if he loses I know he did his best and I tell him "he did a good job."

Parents, please get your nose out of your child's ass long enough to let them play and for those parents trying to relive their childhood through their child, it's not your childhood, it's theirs so let them live it and enjoy it while they can.  

Ringing in the new year.

For 2010 things are going to change in my life.  I am not going to bother with making senseless resolutions such as; losing weight and so on. Ofcourse, that will be one of my goals, but I think there are more important things in my life that need attention. I have put up with far too much crap from a lot of people, but that chapter in my life is over. I am a little tired of being walked on by people and being taken advantage of, so the year 2010 is going to be a new beginning in my life. So, this is it, either it's going to be done right or not at all and I'm going to work on getting the stronger and independent me back. I miss her and I am going to find her again. I am planting both feet firmly on the ground in the year 2010 and I am not putting up with no more bullshit from anyone and I am going to find the old me again. For those who don't take me seriously, need to. Because, I am very serious.

The new year...

I really hope the year 2010 turns out better than the year 2009 has started and is ending. This has been a very difficult year in many ways and the year 2010 could not come soon enough. Many things have changed this year and I cannot say they have changed for the better. Maybe the year 2010 will bring me a little hope that things will get better in the future. However, they way this year has gone it is getting a little difficult to be optimistic.  It has just been one thing after another this year. Don't get me wrong, there are a few things in my life that bring me joy.I know one would say I should be grateful for what I do have; well I am most of the time. It's just that sometimes the struggle is a little tiring. I used to be very passionate about life and always looking for ways to improve my life and strive for more. Nevertheless, lately that flame is dwindling and I am running out new ideas. I used to be a strong independent woman and I thought I could overcome anything; this year has been very sobering. Somehow I lost her and I need to find that woman inside of me again.

The recession is far from being over.

This so-called recession is supposed to be almost over. LMAO.  Who came out with that one?  They say there are thousands of jobs out there.  That's funny, there are thousands of low paying jobs out there, is more like it.  They are just sugar coating the truth.  While searching the web, I found a posting for a secretary.  They were asking 2-5 years experience and a BA degree in business for $10.00 an hour. Four years ago someone with a four year degree would laugh at them. Now, they are scrambling for the job.  Employers are taking advantage of the abundance of workers out there who are unemployed.  There looking at it as an oppurtunity to lower the wages they are paying people.  It's insane!  I am beginning to think, it's the beginning of a new way of life in the United States.  The one thing these employers are not thinking about is, the less money people make, the less money they will spend.  Which will only send us into a deeper recession.  Which means, there business will make less money. Apparently, they failed economics 101.  The funny thing about it, they will probably blame Obama, when it was Bush who put us in this recession. And... an overwelming number of Americans voted him in for the second time around.  I remember telling my boss who voted for him the second time around, you will regret voting for him because that so called tax break he was promising small business owners didnt include him.  He is now out of business and I am out of a job.  I guess I couldn't have been more right about that one.

Today's Youth....

Today's youth have no respect for adults.  You can do your best to raise your children to grow up into good respectful adults, but something happens along the way.  It's like they have a sense of entitlement and feel like they don't have to respect anyone, not even their parents.  The schools have interfered with parents doing their jobs as parents so much, that it makes it almost impossible to raise your child.  The schools have filled their heads with so much crap about how parents shouldn't do this or shouldn't do that, they have given youth way too much power to twist their parents arms.  If you don't do what they want when they want, they think they can just call the police on you or tell someone at school.  You don't even have to do anything and they will make up lies to try and force you into what they want you to do.  Then when they are bad or misbehave in the school or in society, it's our fault; we are bad parents and didn't do our job raising our children. When I was a child and a teenager, I would have never been able to talk to my parents the way today's youth talks to parents.  Sometimes, it feels like you are banging you head against the wall and can not get anything through to them because they know everything and you owe them everything simply because you are their parent.

Afghanistan: 30,000 More Troops... I say hell no!

I support Obama as president and hope he can bring change to the United States. However, I don’t support his decision to send more troops to Afghanistan. I would hate to say it but you can’t change the ways of the people of Afghanistan. In the eight years we have been over there, they have not changed yet. The little news snippets about how the last war changed the lives of the people of Afghanistan was only a smoke screen. Their elections are a joke. The people are forced to vote for a leader, they either vote for the leader the Taliban wants them to vote for or die. That doesn’t sound like democracy to me. We didn't help the people of Afghanistan then and we won't now, thirty-thousand more troops, isn't going to change that. They have had the opportunity on several occasions to take out Bin Laden, but the man is still alive and well. Fighting ‘til death is an honor for them, it is a way of life and you can’t change their culture or their religious beliefs. That is who they are and whom they will always will be. We may not agree with their way of life, but we can’t change them. The Middle East resents America for interfering with their way of life. The same goes with Iraq, we don’t belong there anymore. Most of the people of the Middle East believe we are sinners and want nothing to do with our way of life. I have been to the Middle East, they refer to Americans as Shat`an (Satan). They believe we are sinners and are going to burn in the seven fires of hell… and American Government thinks they can change Iraq & Afghanistan. It’s a pipe dream and might as well give up before the waste anymore of United States money or lose one more life of our great American soldiers by putting more troops in Iraq or Afghanistan. Unless they are a threat to our homeland, we need to keep our soldiers and our money out of Iraq or Afghanistan. There are enough children who has lost their parents to a losing cause.

When is it time to give up?

A friend of mine is going thru a very difficult time with her ex. She really loves this person, but he keeps lying to her and messing around. They go back and forth to one another.  She just can't seem to stay away from him and just when she thinks he has changed and he won't do it anymore, there he goes again.  I feel terrible for her because she really loves him, but he always breaks her heart.  It is tearing her up inside. What is wrong with some men that they can't just love one person and be with just one person?  Don't they care about how much they are hurting the person they say they love?  How can one person be so ruthless and heartless to not even care about how much they are hurting that person who would do anything to just to have this person forever and have them be committed to them and only them. He doesn't even realize he is torturing and breaking her heart. When you make a promise to someone you should keep it.  Men talk about women not knowing what they want. Some men are worse then women. They can't even decide which woman they want. And if we did what they did, we would be a lying cheating bitch. At least when we make a promise, we keep it. They can't say the same. Tell me how can you hurt someone so badly, you claim to love?  Is the thrill of cheating really worth fucking up your life and someone else's life?  They need to remember it is someone else's life they are fucking up & have no right to do it.

Sex, lies & marriage...

As I go online to my myspace, I can't help but wander what is wrong with people today. All their updates are posted on all of their friends pages, about 80% are sexual in content.  The sad part about it are most of these people are married or in relationships. People have become reckless.  It's not just on myspace, that includes anywhere else they are seeking a fling. Infidelity is even in the news almost weekly. Its like sex and marriage are two seperate entities. What did they get married for? You can have sex with you spouse. Why do they need to go out and seek meaningless sex with someone they don't know. In actuality, it's pathetic. It only shows they have no morals or self control.  They are probably the ones saying they are doing it because their sex life at home has gotten boring.  Did they ever stop to think their sex life has gotten boring because they are no longer putting effort into their sex life.  It's a little hard to get into it if the other person is laying there like a bump on a log. They are the only ones to blame if they marriages fail. Maybe if they put as much effort into their marriage as they do into having an affair, their marriages wouldn't fail. You can't be boring in the bedroom and expect it to be exciting. When your married, you need to remember your married and the other person involved has trusted you with their heart. How would it feel if they did the same to you? You would be running around telling everyone what they did to you and acting as though you are innocent when you know your not. If you want to IM, text or email someone why don't you try your spouse? It might actually improve your marriage.  Another excuse is, I just don't love them the same anymore. Well damn, if you are focusing your attention on someone else, your not going to love them the same anymore. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure that one out. You are taking away from the feelings that were meant for your spouse. It is no longer personal anymore.  Seriously, some of these people are just too damn old to be doing this shit anymore.  By the time you get in your mid-thirties you should be settled down and taking care of business not playing around like you are a teenager.  News Flash, your not a teenager anymore and you look ridiculous trying to pretend like your single and in your early to mid-twenties. By the time you have reached your mid-thirties, you only have a few good years left.  So, why don't you give up the childish games and get real. Infidelity is a desperate attempt to build self-esteem. Seriously, open your eyes and see the skank or skanks your having an affair with for what they really are.... and that builds your self-esteem. LMAO. No one likes a phony or a liar. You don't like to be lied to, so why are you lying to someone else? In the end, you have no real potential. If you wouldn't want to be married to someone that is unfaithful and lies to you, then why do expect someone to want you? You married them because you loved them. Why don't love them enough to be faithful? If marriage wasn't serious, you wouldn't need a lawyer to get a divorce. When did loyalty and honesty become such an undesirable trait that so few wish to possess them.

'Tis the season....

I don't know about anyone else, but I'm having a really difficult time getting into the Christmas Spirit this year.  The economy sucks, everything just seems more difficult this year, and it's getting harder to see the light at the end of the tunnel.  They weren't lying when they say "when it rains, it pours." I can't help but be more excited for the new year to begin and 2009 to just be over. Maybe the year 2010 will be better, we can only hope.  I remember in the early 80's, things were a little tough for a few years.  I think the year 2009 has topped that and this is one of the worst recessions the United States has seen in years. We can only hope that things will turn around in the new year.  Nothing in life is what I knew it to be.  Sometimes, I wonder is this what is left of everything I worked so hard to build and if I will ever get my old lifestyle back.

Closing Schools and Laying off Teachers

It seems like everytime I turn on the news there is something on the news about more school closings.  I understand the economy is bad.  But, seriously can we afford to cut back on educating our children?  Other countries school systems are more advanced than the educational system in the United States and they are closing schools and laying off teachers left and right.  Are we really returning to the dark ages?  During the Dark Ages there were no schools.  The Dark Ages began with the Fall of the Roman Empire.  During the Roman Empire there were schools and libraries.  The Barbarians destroyed and burned down all the schools and libraries.  The only difference is it is our own government shutting down libraries and schools.  In my daughters high school, they are laying off the librarian and closing the library.  They claim they the school doesn't need a library.  Why don't they start with cutting the salary and some of the fringe benefits the government officials take.  I think that would be a better place to start. Oh excuse me, we wouldn't want them to feel the hit of the economy. It is much better to over crowd the schools and cut back on educating our youth.