A little dose of reality.

Some teens and young adults have lost touch with reality and don't understand the consequences of their behavior. A friend of mine had her birthday party at a club in Detroit, a fight broke out between a couple of guys and they left and came back with a gun.  As a young woman, a mother, and someone's daughter stepped outside to leave was shot and killed.  A young woman was killed over nothing, and a little girl lost her mother. What a shame. I bet they drove away feeling justified. Hopefully, they will spend the rest of their lives in prison, where they belong.  People like this should remain locked up, like the animals they are. The scary part was I was supposed to go. Thank God, I wasn't feeling well and decided to sit this one out.  I was feeling guilty for not going and celebrating with my best friend, but God must have been watching over me that day.

Is there any hope anymore?

The economy sucks and there are no jobs out there.  At least that pay more than $10.00 an hour. I went from a comfortable lifestyle and what I thought was a secure job to having to start over and to top it off, the jobs out there aren't looking too good.  My future isn't looking so good anymore.  Will the economy ever improve so people can get back on their feet?  I'm beginning to wonder, if this is what the future holds for the United States.  It seems like you work so hard your whole life to be successful and everything just seems to spin out of control and there is nothing you can do about it.  You educate yourself and then get even more education and it just doesn't seem to matter anymore. Even if your married, it's a very scary situation.  First, there's going from two incomes to one income and if that's not hard enough to deal with there is the scary fact that it's not your grandparents 'til death do us part marriage anymore.  You can't be naïve and think there isn't the posibility of divorce in your future. You can love and respect someone all you want but, they have to give it back for it to work. Too many people don't respect the sanctity of marriage anymore. You always have that worry in the back of your mind, what is going to happen to me and my children? Can I depend on them to not let me fall?  It's a very scary reality. The homeless population is always rising, especially now. People who had good jobs and nice homes are now living out of their cars. If you don't find a job and your unemployment runs out, and you lose your home then where are you and your children going to go? Someone should strip George Bush of all his fine luxuries and money, put him in an apartment on the lower east side of town and tell him to go find a job.

Are things heating up yet?

Is your sex life getting stale?  Try making love in a new and exciting place.  Just make sure you aren't going to get caught with your pants down or on camera.  Don't limit your lovemaking to the bedroom.  How about....

• A nice hot shower together. There are aids online or in the adult stores to make  love making easier and safer in the shower.
• Initiating another room in the house.
• Set up a secret meeting place to cook up some hot & steamy sex in a public place.
• A hotel room
• Look up some new positions online. Karma Sutra is a good place to start. They give you details on the how to perform the position. Dont limit yourselves to the same positions all the time.  Even if you don't master the position, it will be fun trying.
• Watch a good porn flick.  By the end of the movie, you will be making love. Choose one together, so you both will be comfortable with the content.
• Try some role playing.
• Surprise him by playing the damsel in distress & then seduce him.

Enjoy your lovemaking adventures, my friends.

Even Santa Clause & His Elves Are Feeling The Economy

Santa Clause & his elves in North Pole, Alaska are being his hard by the economy too.  Santa & his elves have been responding to childrens letters to Santa Clause since 1954 in North Pole, Alaska.  The USPS is dropping the program.   In a town where the light poles are curved like candy canes and there are street names like Kris Kringle Drive they are not ready to give up on the tradition. Gabby Gaborik, the cheif elf is working with USPS to come up with an alternative agreement. They are working on getting the address 101 Santa Clause Lane so children will have somewhere to send their letters.  The USPS has been coding the mail to protect the identity of children since 2006.  Last year, there were approximately 800,000 items processed last year and the USPS says North Pole, Alaska are not equiped with the right equipement to process mail of that kind of volume. Democratic Sen. Mark Begich and Republican Rep. Don Young  have sent letters to the post master general expressing their concerns about the program being dropped. Now, those letters that are intercepted by the postal service will be shredded. How sad, the USPS will be crushing the dreams of thousands of children across the United States.

Enjoy one another

As you may know, I have dedicated the month of November to Bringing The Love Back in your marriage or relationship. With the busy holiday season coming, we spend a lot of time focusing on dinner planning and shopping and forget to take care of ourselves. I know you may already know about all the topics I am discussing for the month of November, or maybe not. However, sometimes we forget to take care of the person we love and forget that even though we are married we still have to work on our relationship. Please feel free to leave any comments or suggestions; I would love to hear from you.

Enjoy One Another

One of the common mistakes couples make in marriage is they forget to have fun together. Having fun together is essential to having a happy marriage. Goof around together; don't be so serious all the time. Be frisky & flirt with one another. Couples are so caught so caught up in daily life they forget to make time alone for one another. Make time for one another at least once a month. Go shopping; go out to dinner or a movie without the children. Look at your budget and see which weekend would be the best weekend to have a date night find a babysitter and spend time alone with your loved one. If you go out to a reasonable restaurant, a dinner for two can be inexpensive. There are several restaurants you two can go out to dinner to and have a couple of drinks and still keep the bill under $40.00. If that is not in your budget, send the kids to a relative’s house for a couple of hours or the night. Have dinner at home and maybe watch a movie together. It is not about how much you spend. It is about staying in touch with each other on a personal level and getting to know each other all over again.

A New Adventure....

Do you want to try something new and exciting? Fulfill your partner's fantasy and give your partner an equal opportunity to satisfy your sultry fantasy. Seriously, think about what is your wildest fantasy you would like to have fulfilled and your mate can do the same. Then you can write a letter or send an email to one another describing in detail what your fantasy is. Make it secretive, plan everything through emails and letters. Don't discuss your fantasy with one another.  You can even meet each other in seperate cars, like you are complete strangers. Don’t be conservative, this is your lifetime partner. If you can’t share your dreams and fantasies with your significant other, then who can you share them with. By this point, you have probably shared illnesses, childbirth and many other personal circumstances. Why not share your fantasies? Many couples are uncomfortable with opening up in the bedroom because they are afraid of how their partner will react to them. In most circumstances, they will be pleased to know what you like and how to please you without playing a guessing game. Boost your intimate moments and make them more pleasurable by letting them know what you like. Couples who are more comfortable with open communication are more satisfied with their sex life. Go ahead, book that room at the hotel down the street or send the kids to a family members’ house for the night and let your imagination run wild.

Its time to stir up the senses!

When being intimate with your partner a good a way to turn up the heat is to remember all the senses. Plan an afternoon trip to you local adult toy store or shop online together. Maximize the fun by going together. If you both go together then you both will be able to give some input on fulfilling your fantasies and choosing items both of you will be comfortable using. When planning your next encounter, think about how many of your partner's senses you can stimulate.

Taste: Champagne, chocolates, edible body paints & oils, sensual fruits that will be fun feeding each other, whip cream and the list goes on. Be creative!

Touch: When touching each other remember soft feather touches. The sensation of feeling isn’t just about touching one another. The sensation of touch is also the surfaces, such as sheets, negligees’, fuzzy rugs, soft surfaces, feathers, etc. One thing to keep in mind is; how does it feel when you touch it?

Sight: Visual stimulation is very important. Most men are visually stimulated when it comes to love making. Light some candles to provide a little soft lighting and give the room a sensual ambiance, negligees’ and a pair of stilettos, and spread some sensual toys on the bed. Have fun!!!

Smell: Scented candles or incense, where perfume, a freshly showered body is also very sensual. Scented massage oils are also very helpful in stirring up more than one of the bodies senses.

Hearing: Talk sexy to your partner. Tell them how their touch makes you feel or what you would like them to do. Being intimate is very personal. So, let’s get personal. Don’t be shy.

And don’t forget….

The Mind: The mind can be a wonderful sensual tool and is where it all begins. Send them some sexy pics inviting them to play, leave a note somewhere telling them where to meet you, or some hot text messages to get the imagination going.

Just remember to enjoy the time you spend with your partner and being creative will keep their interest and their love going for years to come.

The Do's & Don'ts of Love

We begin our search for love as teenagers and spend our lives looking for that perfect person to love and love us back. We spend countless hours in bars, clubs, social gatherings and online trying to find someone that will catch our eye and spark that feeling in us. If finding love and the perfect mate is so important to us, then why when we find it, do we not value that special person we fell in love with? Then there are those who say, "I'm happy alone." Then why are they always on the search for someone to connect with physically or emotionally? It is part of human nature to seek someone to mate with and spend our life with. That is what separates us from animals. It is animalistic behavior to seek others solely to mate with or for just physical pleasure. When you do find that special person, do not be foolish and push them away. When two people are cohabitating together day in and day out, year after year there is going to be some difficulties. Many couples argue over nonsense things and nag one another. You need to pick your battles.

 The Do’s & Don’ts of love

 Don’t 

•  Don’t nag your partner
•  Don’t make a big deal out of nothing
•  Don’t criticize your mate
•  Don’t go to bed angry
•  Don’t take them for granted
•  Don’t ever degrade them in front of others or alone
•  Don’t betray their loyalty & trust
•  Don’t be selfish
•  Don’t break their heart

Do

• Love them unconditionally 
• Think before your speak
• Be loyal & trustworthy
• Appreciate the small things they do for you
• Something special for them to show your love
• Tell them you love them everyday
• Be respectful of their feelings
• Always make sure they know how you feel
• Forgive them
• Make decisions together
• Always be committed to your partner & your relationship
• Remember why you fell in love with them
• Hold them near and dear in your heart & love them forever!

If you really love someone, be true to them......

If you really love someone, then be true to them. When you really love someone and care for them you don't do things that will hurt them. Be honest with the one you love. Don't think that just because they don't know, it won't hurt them. The truth always comes out in the end. I think people have a fear of committment. What is so scary about being committed to someone? If your sharing yourself with someone else, your not giving yourself the opportunity to completely love someone. You will never experience real love when your holding back a piece of yourself. It's not fair to you or your partner. Your spouse or your partner will be there for you when no one else will. Will the one night stand take care of you when your sick? Will the one night stand be there for you when your down? Can you depend on the one night stand or fling to help you out when you need it? No, they won't! No little one night stand or fling is worth losing the person you love. If you found that one person you love, why would you risk losing them just to have a fling. I don't get it. You can't build a future with someone while your still playing in the field. Be smart, appreciate what you have. Be true to your partner and don't just say you are when your really not. You expect them to be true to you, so be true to them. I bet you would be really shocked and hurt if they weren't. So, why the double standard? Stop being selfish and show them the same love and respect you expect from them. Sure it may be fun while your doing it, but is it still going to be fun when you have broken your partner our spouse's heart? Is it still going to be fun when you have lost the one you love? You can't replace them as easy as you think. Is it still going to be worth it when you know your the reason for all their pain? Are you going to bring the love back or throw it away?

Appreciate your life and the loved ones in it. You never know when you won't have them anymore.

Driving on my way home from shopping for my son's birthday at Target today, there was a young woman probably in her early 20's sitting on the ground just as you come into the plaza holding a sign saying "Need help with rent." The poor girl looked like she was freezing. It was so sad, I had to fight back the tears. I really wish I could have given her something, but I had no cash on me. I know the economy has gotten bad and the homeless or people facing hardship has been around for years. I think we live in our little suburb's blocking out the hardship of the world. There are so many of us who may be having a hard time. I really sympathize with this girl. I lost my job about a year ago right before Christmas and still haven't found work. The economy has really made a lot peoples lives very difficult. It is even getting hard for the young people to find minimum wage jobs to try and support themselves until they make their way in life. After seeing that girl, I thought "Wow, there is so much in life that we take for granted." Such as, having a roof over our head, food on the table and cloths to wear. I just want people to look around them and appreciate the things they do have. Thank God you have a hot meal every day and someone to share it with. Even if what you have may not be a lot, but at least you have it and truly appreciate the people you have in your life who love you and are there to catch you when you fall. Not everyone is blessed with those things. Obviously, this poor girl doesn't have anyone to help her when she is down. Hold on the ones you love near and dear to your heart and never let go.

November-Bringing the love back....Day 2

Many people in their daily grind forget to flatter your partner. Be sure to compliment your partner as often as possible. After years of being in a relationship we forget to compliment our partner. Don't leave your partner feeling like they are no longer attractive to you.

Show your spouse your truly genuinely care about them.

Pay attention to them when they are speaking to you.

Keep the lines of communication open- always let your spouse know how you are feeling. Constructively communicate without lashing out is the key.

Leave each other little notes somewhere, just simply saying "I love you."

Have fun with texting one another. Once your the little buzz in the pocket, you may be the little buzz somewhere else.

Never let your spouse feel as though they need to turn to someone else for emotional support.

Always have fun together. Goof around and laugh a little. You will enjoy the time you spend together a lot more.

See you tomorrow....

Month of November.... bring the love back.

With the busy holiday season coming around the corner, many couples don't make enough time for themselves putting stress on their relationship. I'm making the month of November "Bringing the love back." For the month of November I will post various tips and tricks you and your partner can use to help bring the love back in your relationship and show your appreciation for one another. Check back to see the fun and exciting ways to spruce up your relationship. Please feel free to leave comments or any ideas you may have on how to bring the love back in your relationship. So, lets begin.....

You can be intimate any day of the week or any time of the day, be spontaneous.

A recipe for some "Sweet Bubbly Fun"

Illuminate the room with red and white candles. Red and white candles give you a feeling of love.

Some of your favorite chocolates. For example, maybe some chocolate covered strawberries. Chocolate has sensual properties that increase the brain activity from the caffeine and an increase in serotonin which lowers stress.

A bottle of champagne. The bubbles in the champagne will arouse you and your partner.

Enjoy.... you can thank me later. Don't forget to check back for more tips and tricks.

Spice up your love life...

Some of the most common complaints in a relationship is their sex life has faded, it's become boring or the spark just isn't there anymore. People get settled and comfortable in a relationship and no longer work at trying to impress their partner. Intimacy has an important part of the relationship to keep the love alive and burning. Appreciate the needs of your partner. Instead of complaining about it, take some action. Put down the remote and sneak into your bedroom once the kids are tucked away in their beds. You don't need to go anywhere to have some fun, you can have fun in your own room. Go to your local pharmacy and get some massage oil, light some candles and do sensual massages on each other, buy a new negligee or go online and see what you can find interesting to add a little spice to your relationship. Do anything, but nothing. Another option is, if you do have children and you need to get away, get a babysitter, pick up some take out and rent a room somewhere for the night. You don't even have to leave town. You can rent a room a mile from where you live. Who says you have to go out of town to rent a room or that it needs to be a special occasion to appreciate your loved one. Experiment a little and have some fun. You actively pursued your partner in the beginning...why stop now?